Relationship Conflicts and the Dangers of Short-Term Thinking


I often think about how and why we say and do hurtful things -- usually to the people whom we care about most deeply -- in order to get a short term gain. Even though we may get a short term payoff, very often it comes at a price that can manifest negatively for a [...]

Mindfulness and Meditation—The Differences and Similarities


If you’ve heard about the practice of mindfulness, it’s easy to lump what you know about it with meditation, but that would be missing part of the picture. It is true that mindfulness teachers often includes some type of meditation component, and both mindfulness and meditation share many of the same physical, mental, and spiritual [...]

Mindfulness Retreats – To Speak or Not to Speak


When a person wants to develop a deeper understanding of mindfulness, it can be very helpful to attend a mindfulness retreat. In such a retreat, whether it is for a day, several days, a week or longer, the basic principals of learning to pay attention from moment to moment are both taught and practiced. Simple [...]

Understanding the True Nature of Stress


Ever notice how some people are able to smoothly deal with stressful situations while others simply fall apart? Stress is a natural and predictable emotion that every human being has to live with. However, when we lack the experience, insight and practice needed to work skillfully with this mental state, it can become a real [...]

Physician coaching advice: Four simple tips to help you deal with difficult patients


Difficult, belligerent, or entitled patients can be among the greatest challenges for physicians and other health care professionals. Unfortunately these kinds of patients tend to show up when a provider is having a long, trying day. Of course, you try to be patient since responding in kind is not an acceptable approach. However, you are [...]

Counseling, Health Insurance and Mental Wellness


If you want to use health insurance when you visit a counselor, you currently have no option other than to work with a licensed clinician and receive a diagnosis – the two requirements for licensed clinical therapists to receive reimbursement from insurance companies. The problem with this is many people who see a therapist aren’t [...]



There is a familiar phenomenon that takes place in the mind when we have an experience that disturbs us. Let me illustrate the point. Say a mid-level manager in a company gets an e-mail requesting she attend an unplanned meeting with the head of the department. She has never been asked to attend such a [...]

Working with Fear in Real-Time


My work with one client involved, among other things, regular walks on one of his favorite beaches. These walks often lasted for several hours. One of the major stressors this gentleman communicated on one of these walks was his fear of not having enough money to meet his obligations. It involved a particularly large bill [...]